From: Kent Hovind
Sent: August 22, 2007
To: Reuben
Subject: Hidden Sin and Forgiveness
Read: Genesis 37; 42:1-28
Time: After Genesis 42:28 as Reuben stares at his money
KH: Hey Reuben, you look like you have seen a ghost! Are you OK?
Reuben: Uh…..no! I’m not doing well at all.
KH: What seems to be the problem?
Reuben: I just opened my sack of grain to feed my mule and found my money in it. It looks like the same money I gave the Egyptian yesterday to pay for the grain. His name was Zaphnath-paaneah (Genesis 41:45). We just call him Zaph for short. He is the second in command of the entire country right under Pharoah himself! I don’t know how the money got back in my sack.
KH: Well…that’s good news! You got the grain for free! What are you nervous about?
Reuben: Because Zaph will think we stole the money or the grain or both. He kept careful records of every purchase. He is going to be furious when he discovers this. He will kill us!
KH: So, just don’t ever go back shopping there again.
Reuben: Uh…it is much more complicated than that! There is no food anywhere else because of the famine in the land, plus, Zaph kept our brother, Simeon, as a hostage until we return with our little brother, Benjamin.
KH: Why did he do that?
Reuben: Oh…it is a long, sad story.
KH: Let’s hear it.
Reuben: I know that this happened because God is judging my sin. God put the money in my sack to cause all this evil. I knew this day was coming (Genesis 42:21-22).
KH: Wow, what sin did you commit?
Reuben: Lying, kidnaping, attempted murder, and withholding information from my grieving father. I helped sell my own brother into slavery and probably death! It all happened twenty-one years ago (Genesis 37:28). He was only seventeen years old. He was a good kid too! He loved God.
KH: Why did you do that? How could you sell your own brother?
Reuben: I come from a very dysfunctional family and it would be easy to blame my childhood, but since I’m the oldest and knew better, it is all largely my fault.
KH: Tell me about your childhood.
Reuben: My dad, Jacob, deceived his own father and stole his brother’s birthright and blessing (Genesis 27). He had to run away from his furious brother so he came to Haran and got a job working for my grandpa Laban (Genesis 28:10). Grandpa Laban tricked Dad into marrying my mom when he really wanted to marry her younger sister, my aunt Rachel (Genesis 29:25). Mom knew she wasn’t really pretty and Dad didn’t really love her. Their marriage was pretty shaky from the start.
When I was born, Mom tried to use me to get Dad’s attention (Genesis 29:32). I didn’t feel much love either. It was more like I was just a pawn in some game they were playing. My mom’s sister was real pretty but she was a liar and a thief (Genesis 31:34) just like Dad.
Both sisters were jealous of each other and talked Dad into marrying their servant girls to have even more children. It was a real mess! I had three stepmothers who were all jealous of each other, all fighting for Dad’s attention; and all resented me. I also had five brothers and five half brothers and one sister. Later I got another half brother.
KH: Wow! What a messed up family! That’s a bad way to grow up.
Reuben: Yes, it was! Dad was too busy with family feuds to really spend much time teaching us things. He was often scheming up ways to trick people and get rich quick. He even cheated my Grandpa Laban out of his sheep and goats (Genesis 30:32-43).
Dad knew Grandpa would be mad; so he packed us all up and left without letting us even say goodbye to Grandpa (Genesis 31:17). That hurt bad, too! Dad tried to be all holy about stealing the flocks. He said God had given them to him (Genesis 31:8-9).
We boys all knew what really happened. We helped Dad artificially inseminate the flocks (Genesis 30:37-39). That’s one thing Dad taught us a lot about mating! I think we all knew way too much way too soon! I won’t do that with my kids. It was real hard to keep a clean heart and mind around our house. There seemed to be only one thing on everyone’s mind.
My mom even taught me about aphrodisiacs! I found some mandrakes (Genesis 30:14) one time and knew what they were for and that Mom would want them. How is a teenage boy supposed to keep a clean mind growing up with a mom and dad like that (Psalm 119:9-11). Our house was filled with lustful thoughts and talk all the time. I even committed adultery with one of my stepmoms (Genesis 35:22). Dad knew about it but didn’t do anything. He never taught me to admit my sin and take responsibility for my actions.
KH: Sounds like a lot of families in my town. Kids are raised with a steady stream of immorality in their living room right on the TV. Then parents wonder why their kids go bad.
Reuben: On a what? A TV?
KH: Never mind. That would take a while to explain! Why didn’t your dad do anything?
Reuben: I don’t know. I wish he would have been more consistent as a parent. It was almost as if he were two different people. Sometimes all he lived for was the flesh and other times he was real close to God. He even has two names: Jacob and Israel. He is definitely a double-minded man (James 1:8).
KH: What does all this have to do with the money in the sack?
Reuben: I’m just giving you the background on why I’m unstable (Genesis 49:4). It’s not really an excuse, but I sure didn’t have any good role models in the house except Joseph. He was the only one of us boys who really seemed to want to stay pure and serve God. We pretty much hated him for it.
KH: So do you recommend that men have multiple wives or girlfirends?
Reuben: No way! It causes lots of problems in the family! Anyway, when Dad made Joseph the coat of many colors, the brothers really got mad. They plotted to kill him but I talked them out of that. We just threw him in a pit (Genesis 37:18-24). I left to take care of the sheep and when I came back, I found out my brothers had sold him to be a slave (Genesis 37:29-30)! That’s when we decided to dip his coat in blood and give it to Dad (Genesis 37:31-32). We didn’t technically lie to Dad. We just showed him the bloody coat and let him think Joseph had been torn up by animals.
KH: Did it bother you?
Reuben: Real bad. Sometimes withholding truth is just like lying. It has bothered me every day and night for twenty-one years! When Dad saw the coat, he cried uncontrollably for weeks (Genesis 38:34) and still has bad days even now. I have not been able to have an open, honest loving relationship with my dad for twenty-one years now. My secret sin affects my relations with my brothers and even my wife and children. I always feel like I’m hiding something because I am! The burden I carry is horrible! Every time anything bad happens, even if I just break a fingernail, I am reminded of my sin. It is awful to live this way!
I’ve thought of that thousands of times! I want so badly to get this off my conscience. I’m just too unstable, I guess (Genesis 49:4). I find it hard to talk with Dad. We all knew he had lied and tricked both his dad and his brother (Genesis 27). We were also pretty mad when our only sister was defiled and Dad did nothing about it (Genesis 34:5)!
I know it’s no excuse for me, but our family has a long history of lies, lust, and greed. Now, it is all catching up with us (Genesis 42:21; Numbers 32:23). If this famine continues, we will all starve. Zaph told us not to come back without our little brother, Benjamin (Genesis 42:20). There is no way Dad will ever let Ben go with us all the way to Egypt. God is definitely judging us. The way of the transgressor is so hard (Genesis 4:13; Proverbs 13:15). It would have been so much better to just live for God and do right (Proverbs 28:13)!
KH: Wow! Now I see why the money in the sack does not make you happy. You have a real mess on your hands!
Reuben: I know! I dread facing Dad. I dread facing Zaph again and I really dread facing God! I’ve pretty well messed up my life and my kids’ lives. I don’t see any way out of this problem.
KH: Well…God is merciful to those who confess their sins and forsake them (I John 1:9). He can even use our sin, selfishness, stupidity and stubborness for His glory and for our good. I was pretty stupid one time as a seventeen-year-old. I tapped out the head bolts on my Volkswagon to put in Heli-coils and didn’t take time to change the oil afterwards. I blew the engine on a date that night, but that’s how I ended up with my gorgeous wife!
Reuben: Huh? What’s a head bolt and why do you tap on them? How many oxen are needed to pull a “volks” or whatever kind of wagon it was you had? I don’t get anything you are talking about!
KH: Oh, boy! That would take a real long time to explain, but the point is, God used my mistake for His glory. He will do the same with you if you confess your sin. Come clean, Reuben! God still loves you and can even fix this horrible mess you’ve made.
Reuben: There is no way even God can fix this one. I’ve messed it up too bad.
KH: Go home and pray about it. Don’t let your dad suffer anymore. Tell him the truth.
Reuben: I’ll pray about it, but I don’t think God listens to me or even wants me.
KH: Oh, He listens and wants you, but it starts with admitting your sin to Him and then following His steps to make it right with the people you’ve harmed.
Reuben: How could I ever fix the wrong I’ve done to my brother, Joseph? He’s got to be dead by now!
KH: Didn’t Joseph try to keep a pure heart and serve God?
Reuben: Yes, he was not perfect, but he did trust God and tried to do right. But it didn’t do any good. Look what happened to him! He died!
KH: Actually, I know how God will fix that one, too, but I can’t tell you.
Reuben: Why not?
KH: First, knee-mail blocks stuff about the future most of the time; and second, you wouldn’t believe me if I told you how it all turns out.
Reuben: How do you know this stuff?
KH: God keeps His Word. He promised to bless your father, Jacob, your grandfather, Isaac, and your great-grandfather, Abraham. God never lies. Plus, I read the end of your story in God’s Word (Revelation 7:5). You’ll be fine (Deuteronomy 33:1-6)!
Reuben: My story is in God’s Word?
KH: Oh, yes! Many times.
Reuben: So, God will straighten this terrible mess out? How?
KH: I can’t tell you how, but get ready to shout praises to God when He does.
You know you will eventually have to confess your sin. Why not do it now?
Reuben: I can’t. Maybe next year.
KH: Yes, maybe next year. I hate to see you hide this sin and waste another year of your life, but it’s your decision. I will knee-mail you later on. Enjoy your trip home.